The Book of Kink

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KINK GONE MAINSTREAM
The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform. —ALFRED KINSEY

You’re skimming the news and are totally engrossed in an article about a conservative preacher who has always championed traditional marriage. Now he’s been found with two men who were ramming him with a rolling pin, and let’s just say it was consensual. You don’t know what fascinates you more: that all this time the hypocrite has been secretly gay or that, Wow! he’s into some kinky play.
Maybe you’ve been dating this woman and you’re thinking:
I’ve been a gentleman long enough. Tonight in bed, I’m going to stick my thumb in her tush. The time is right. The lights are low and the music is romantic. You’re in a sensual embrace and you’re about to do something with your thumb that you would never tell you grandmother about. You take a deep breath before going in. Then, suddenly, you feel your anal sphincter flinch. She’s putting her thumb in your tush! Kinky!
You’re hanging with your lover one night, flipping through the TV channels. He stops on porn, which you never watch. He does jumping jacks with his eyebrows, hoping to spark interest. You decide to actually take a look. You’ve always viewed pornography as sick, twisted, gross, degrading, raunchy, horny, sexy, wet, hot . . . Holy crap, you’re getting turned on. He raises the remote and feigns changing the channel, hoping you’ll tell him to wait. You tell him to leave it for a second.
Does this mean you’re kinky?
Some say kinky is only kinky when you’re engaging in sexual behavior outside of your comfort zone for the first time. After that, it may become the norm. It’s just another facet of your sex life. So is kinky all whips and chains, handcuffs, hot wax, latex, bondage and stilettos? Sure, but only to a degree. There’s a lot of creativity that goes into kinky.
What many people consider to be kinky today is simply sexual activity that’s been around since the dawn of man. The ebb and flow of what’s considered appropriate sex versus kinky sex has always gone through phases. But it appears as though more and more once-deemed-kinky activities are being viewed as sexually or socially acceptable. The mainstreaming of kinky sex has been evolving and will continue to progress, pushing some people’s moral compasses in a new direction while others fi nd themselves thriving in this new openness. Dr. Ava Cadell, founder and president of Loveology University, puts it like this: “If love makes the world go round, sex is what keeps it on course.” I suppose kinky sex is what steers it into new directions.
Reprinted from The Book of Kink by Eva Christina by arrangement with Perigee, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc., Copyright (c) 2001 by  Eva Christina.